If you look up the word tangible in the online “Merriam-Webster” dictionary, the first thing you will see is the following:
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tangible
1tan·gi·ble
adjective \ˈtan-jə-bəl\
: easily seen or recognized
: able to be touched or felt
In the world of chronic pain when we talk about tangible conditions, we are generally referring to those issues that can be seen on scans and images or be detected by other testing. In other words things that can be seen and pointed to. So many of us that have chronic pain…. especially Fibromyalgia…. spend a great deal of time “proving ourselves” as our pain is word of mouth as well as muscle knots that can often be felt. Sometimes, but not always, our blood work is a little “off” but nothing earth shattering.
In my situation I have both tangible issues and issues that cannot be seen by scans. However, it seems as of late, my tangible issues have overtaken my Fibromyalgia in the great “race” for which conditions are wreaking the most havoc at any given moment. Hands down, my neck is the number one culprit.In the last year and a half, three scans: A regular X ray, an MRI and a CAT Scan all revealed the following: I have 2 disc herniations, degenerative disc disease, osteo-arthritis, severe kyphosis (a reverse curve aka a ‘hump neck’), numerous bone spurs and the worst of all of these, severe stenosis on every level of the C-Spine as well as T-1. I was sent to one of the two best orthopedic doctors in the area. He said he would not touch my neck, but sent me to the other one (who was in a different practice; a rival), and this Doctor agreed to take my case. However, I was too afraid to have the surgery a year ago. I still am but fear that I have declined to a point to where I am going to be left with no choice soon.
Nearly all of the time I have little to no feeling in both my hands. Most of the time my legs and feet are at best ‘pins and needles’. The scariest part comes when my right foot ‘contorts’ or goes into a painful and uncontrollable ‘Charley Horse’ like spasm that I have to just ride out. Paul comes and rubs my foot as it contorts without anything I can do but just let it go. Sometimes the spasm is done inside one minute, other times it goes for over five minutes. The major downside to this spasm is I fall. And when I say fall, I mean I am down like a 5 ft 8 in rag-doll. I have fallen in all kinds of places but since I am home most of the time, I usually am able to catch my falls someplace within my own home. A few of the falls have been hard, including the pavement and cement stairs. Paul has witnessed at least one fall first hand and as he said, it scared him senseless. I feel like the “Elephant Man” much of the time. If you are reading this and you remember that movie (I am showing my age), The Elephant Man or Joseph Merrick of the United Kingdom could not sleep laying down because the weight of his head would suffocate him. Now I am blessed not to have such a tragic condition as Mr. Merrick, God rest his soul, however, I do get the not being able to lay down scenario. I have not slept laying down in a bed all eight hours of a night since 2011. The stenosis in my neck causes such an enormous feeling or pressure on my head that I would end up with a raging headache if I dare try to sleep laying down. There is no way around it. It just sucks. There is one thing I have been assured of: It will only get worse. I also have arthritis throughout my lower back. This has been detected in the last few months. The one area I never actually had a lot of problems was lower back. The key word being, was. Now it is sore most all of the time, and at its worse if I have been on my feet for any length of time….. even ten minutes. Yet I still fight for my disability after three years (stay tuned for a later post on the subject of how miserable and broken our disability system really is). I still put on my ‘happy, happy’ game face as to not dare be a “Debbie Downer” for all the world to see. Dare I actually open up and be honest about my life and the struggles face on a day to day basis? That is what this little spot on the internet is for as well as the occasional ‘bad day’ on Facebook.
those that tell someone else that they are embellishing about their ailments and conditions are nothing more than hypochondriacs themselves.. You know what is real, your drs know what is real, your friends and family that love you know what is real. There is no reason for you to have to validate things to others who know nothing .. you hang in there dear and do whatever needs to be done. we all are behind you all the time with our love and support as much as needed.. {{{gentle hugs}}}
Thanks Tina! There are those that have …. especially in my past…. accused me of actually ‘making this all up’. Well, I cannot make up scans 😉 So who has pie on their face now 🙂 But Karma is a lovely lady and is already at work in the lives of some of these people. In fact very much so! Also, now that there are more blood work ups and things that are available for fibro (not to mention my muscle knots are visible and felt), well…. but you know how that is. Again, Karma…. sweet Karma. As always, my lovely friend. Thank you for reading. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Those that would tell anyone suffering from pain that it’s all in their head or something to that effect, are just mean, malicious people who probably have unresolved anger issues. My daughter was accused of “malingering” when she was in high school. We took her to doctors, but they found nothing wrong. Eventually a chiropractor wrote out an order for thyroid test. Bingo! Her TSH, which is supposed to be in the .40 to 4.50 range was over 100! I don’t know how she was walking upright. Later she was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis. She later went to university and was on the dean’s list the whole time and now is a teacher. I don’t believe that any normal healthy person is born lazy. If a person isn’t functioning well, there is something wrong, even tho it may not be evident yet.
Thank you for your response. It is ironic because among other things (other than the fibro and spine issues), I too was diagnosed nearly a decade ago with Hashimoto’s Disease. I still struggle with this condition and in fact am getting ready to be tested for full adrenal exhaustion. I am so glad you received answers about your daughters condition and that she was able to overcome and reach her full potential! 🙂 Thanks for reading and sharing! 🙂
Karma is a sweet lady that will get them double fold in the end and i love watching happen most the time. thank you for posting the pics i will show tom them then. i can never figure out what i’m looking at with scans and stuff half the time he has to show me all mine, i seen my heart and heck it dont look like no heart i’ve ever seen before.. lol..
you hang in there girl we are all here for you.. {{{gentle hugs}}}