Avoiding Toxic People

toxic1When we live a live with a chronic health condition, especially chronic pain, life throws enough challenges at us. From finding a Doctor that will champion for us to facing people that think we are ‘embellishing our symptoms’ or even faking it to get sympathy, life with fibromyalgia or any of her sister conditions is a day to day battle. One big piece of advice I can give: Avoid all things toxic, especially toxic people!

Sometimes we are so wrapped up or involved in a situation, we cannot see the forest for the trees. That person who makes fun of us for perhaps being clumsy (as a result of our condition, or tangible illness such as happened in my case), is slowly spewing the toxin in. Like the scenario of the frog slowly boiling and it is boiling so slow it does not know it is getting cooked, one can be getting a low level of ‘human toxins’ and not even know it! If you are laughing on the outside but upset or even holding back tears, RUN!toxic4We protect our children and grandchildren by keeping hazardous chemicals locked up. We keep our medications on high shelves or locked in a safe. I myself go through my house like a blood-hound when I know my three year old granddaughter is going to be visiting. I leave no stone unturned. As much as it hurts my arthritic knees, I even get down at the level of a three year old to see what may be ‘tempting’ and make sure all things hazardous are safely out of reach. Yet as patients with compromised immune systems who are already wracked with physical pain, do we take this kind of guard and care with our spirit? We should.

WE GUARD OUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN AGAINST HARM. WE PULL OUT ALL THE STOPS TO ASSURE THEIR SAFETY. YET DO WE DO THE SAME WITH OUR OWN SPIRIT? IF WE DO NOT, WE REALLY SHOULD!

WE GUARD OUR CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN AGAINST HARM. WE PULL OUT ALL THE STOPS TO ASSURE THEIR SAFETY. YET DO WE DO THE SAME WITH OUR OWN SPIRIT? IF WE DO NOT, WE REALLY SHOULD!

 

Remember, if someone is talking about others behind their backs and spewing venom, they are doing or will do the same to you! Trust me, I have age and wisdom on my side and though I can be naive, I have seen this time and time again. The person that spills their guts to you like a hormonal teenager, he/she is going to say things to others about you. Now this may not be your situation, but whatever toxic situation you are in, get out! Trust me, you and your health do not need it! You can try and warn others, but they will have to find out in their own time and space if they choose not to believe the specifics you give them. Sadly, most will learn the hard way when it all comes crashing down like a pile of bricks. Toxic. No, we who have chronic health conditions, we need peace, love and harmony. We do not need people that mock us and make fun of us. We need people that understand us and uplift us. Remember, God, Karma, whatever you choose to believe as the higher power, always takes care of all, in their time. So go and live well for that is the best ‘revenge’. toxic5In order to live the most pain free life we can, we have to have the least stress we can. This includes avoiding toxins including toxic people. Listen to your gut! It is the best indicator of who is pure and who is toxic. I normally listen to mine but sometimes (and we all do this) we get so excited about a situation, we ignore our gut and over-ride the alarms it is sending us! Every time I have done this, I have regretted it. When you get stressed, you end up in a flare and that is really not good. So zen and peace to you. Remember, you are worthy of good. You are worthy of love! Until next time, K.

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2 thoughts on “Avoiding Toxic People

  1. this hits so close to home. Tom and I have had to disassociate ourselves from most if not all of my family for this reason along with our former Buddhist instructor. It pains me to look back and to think if only i had seen the signs earlier, they were there i just didn’t see them.. we have been walked all over and used by my family members that we have tried to help when they were down and out and they have made it look like we were the bad guys to everyone else.. toxic people are so deceiving, but as soon as you can get away from them. far away..

    • Tina, you are so right! One big tale-tale sign I have found through the years is, if someone talks about others behind your back, rest assure, they are talking behind your back too. People that ‘hate’…. bigots, homo-phobic people, judge people for their religious / spiritual beliefs and even disabilities are narcissistic, self-centered vats of poison that are as lethal to your soul as if you were to drink a cup Jim Jones’s Kool-Aide. What is even sadder is when you try to warn others, swearing on the most sacred of things (and people knowing how spiritual you are… even sighting the most intimate details), and they fall back on this person. But you know, all you can do is tell them. It is their life and their back that is going to eventually get stabbed. Getting out of a toxic cesspool for me has been the most freeing, uplifting thing I have felt in ages. Sometimes you do not realize how much an ignorant hate-monger brings you down to their level until you are away from it!

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